Re-lay-shun-ships Part II

No guys, this isn't going to be as long as the last one. And it's not continuing. It was brought to my attention that my last blog was a tad wordy and didn't sound like "me."

So I have a new plan. Whenever I write a blog that I'm not in love with, I'll write a different blog under the same topic in that same week.

Being in relationships is a tricky business, but we almost can't live without them.

You know, I have a few groups of friends that I really love being around. I also have a boyfriend that I care about very much, but I also have a curiosity that is like, "what about that guy? Hm..."

Relationships are messy, because there seems to be commitment to all of them. Think about the relationship with your parents, they commit to you first. Well, they kind of have to. They're stuck with you for a loooonnngggg time. They are how you learn to make all other relationships.

In my last blog, you saw how I broke up the word relationship. It kind of defines the word.

As a child you make friends by finding something common. The idea is to "fit in" through much of the teenage horny years. All you want to do is be "normal", but normal is boring. As an adult, however, the goal is different.

 You realize as a young adult, at least in my world, you become friends with some of the most unlikely  people if you keep your mind open. You won't judge them and they won't judge you.

I grew up in a family where they judge everyone on the planet. My parents and grandparents are some of the most judgmental people on this earth. In a culture of judgements, I managed to avoid it. They say behaviors are learned and not inborn. There are also behaviors we learn NOT to adopt. That was one.

Sex sometimes defines relationships, that's a given. I mean there is a "lay" part in the word. Not that your friendships need to have sex involved, but in romantic relationships it's at least a good 4o% of appeal in the start, I think. You have to at least be "physically attracted to the person" right?

It's when a four letter word that starts with "l" gets involved is when it gets messy. "Love". When love gets involved, it becomes harder to keep a clear head, harder to worry about "just you" and harder when you have sex. I'm talking literally for the last part.

The messy relationship is like this. Once you've introduced the four letter word, the relationship implies a stronger bond. The media portrays love as one of the most important emotions. An emotion that we make hasty decisions over, that we kiss each other over, that we change our whole life plan for someone because we supposedly "love" them over.  Ok, and what if we do that?  What if a few years later, we find out it can't work?


The messy part is when you are in a good relationship,but you wonder what is beyond those walls, your curiosity takes over. It creates a what-if situation with many people in your circle of friends. It's exciting, yet doesn't have the comfort of the current relationship.

For some people, having someone break your heart is easier than breaking someone else's heart. Because we know we'll be able to fix ourselves eventually. But since we're not that other person, we don't know how it will affect them. Or sometimes it's because we know it HURTS to have our heart broken and would hate to be that person that made them feel the way we felt. I would hate to cause that hurt and pain on someone else.

I think this is for the better, but in college people stop putting labels on things, well at least in my world of atc-ers. Like relationships are not "labeled". Like you can "date" without being together. Being "single" doesn't have to mean you're alone. In high school everyone and everything is a label. We're not soup cans, we don't need to live by labels.

Commitment is the big word in all relationships. Friendships, lovers, parents, they all have a desire to make it work and feel accepted as yourself. And not your fake self, but your real self.

Well I hope you read this, and I really hope you enjoy Re-Lay-Shun-Ships parts 1 and 2. This is not as wordy. But I really do enjoy writing this. I can't wait till next week to write again. If you read part 1, then you know that I have something special planned. I hope you will continue reading. So thank you for your time. Hope to see you come back next week. I really appreciate feedback, and my goal is just to make you smile when you read. If I have done that, I feel awesome. So hope I did. Thanks for reading.

Cassidy