Re-lay-shun-ships

So you realized I spelled out relationships the way I did. The reason I wrote it out like that is because when broken up into syllables, they kind of define the word if you think about it.

Re: Let's start with the "re".  "Re" is about the doing things over and over again, like apologizing, like kissing, about going out to dinner. Over and Over again. But no one says you can't enjoy that stuff over and over again. Or acting like a moron over and over again at the mall, it's still fun. 

Lay: This is the basis for many many relationships. Boy likes girl, no more like, Boy thinks girl is hot, and boy wants to get the "laid". There's the "lay" part.  However, I don't care what anybody says, girls are just as horny as boys, and believe me, it's vise-versa too. The "lay" part is strictly based on the hotness scale.
 I know, "No Shit, Sherlock," but many relationships exist because of sex, and only because of sex. Never said that wasn't a perk. 

Shun: The "shun" part comes from the fighting part of all relationships, the "shunning" part. There comes a time where in all relationships, friendship, lovers and family alike, get into fights, and you are so disgusted with one another, you don't want to look or speak to each other. So we "shun" each other.  

Ship: Last but not least, the "ship" part. The "ship" part comes from the tears you shed throughout your life. Whether it be with your lover or your friend, your relationship either gets you through the pain, or causes it and makes you cry. We need a ship to get through all the tears in our lives, sometimes you can't make it on your own. 

So the syllables broken up do make some sense for the word. So you see how genius it was to create the word just like that. You know what though? Relationships are tricky things to create, and to maintain. You never know what is beyond the walls. 

Part of being in a relationship is mostly about one thing, being vulnerable. Being able to open up to that person about anything and everything, either a friend, a lover, a teacher, or a parent. The teacher part sounds a little bit off, but believe me in some situations, some of us completly understand the openeness with some instructors, especially in the ATC. But before I digress too much, the most important thing is to trust, and know you won't be judged. EVER. 

In all situations, relationships are often difficult to maintain and establish. Creating them is not a challenge, but nurturing them in the right way is. It's not always "let's be friends". It becomes difficult when your "friends" are of the opposite sex, or your sexual preference.  So, I've developed a list of relationships that I see in my college. Simple relationships, and some NOT so simple. 

The "I only want to be friends with you in school" Relationship:

There are people you hang out with, that you only want to hang out with when you are in a particular situation like work, or school. You want to have someone to hang out with at school or work, but that doesn't mean that you want to have sleepovers with this person or that you even really like them.

The "I'm Single, and I'm on the market, and I flirt with everyone!" Relationship:

There is nothing wrong with being single and loving it. Singles are free, they can flirt with whoever they wish, when they wish. Grab an arm, hug randomly. They usually have a bunch of people they are interested in at one time, being single has it's pluses. You can hang out with who you want, when you want. Not to mention look for others. They are kind of the cliche, "playa"  or "player".  They just like to play the field. This isn't necessarily the "relationship", but all the other little relationships, don't last long and the connection is never there. 

The "We have something in common. Let's bond over that" Relationship: This is how most friendships are made. You know, "we have the same science class together, isn't our teacher a bore?" that sort of thing. The more you hang out, the more you like each other and can blurt out your secrets. 

Here's one of the tricky ones, The " I'm into dating this person, but there's only one teensy weensy problem. She has a BOYFRIEND" Relationship:

This has happened to every damn person on the planet. Maybe not, but it has happened to me, many times. There were times I was interested in this guy, but he always had a girl around him that would slice my hand off if she had a knife if I even grabbed his arm. People are protective of their lovers, they don't like to share. I mean nobody wants to share crabs or herpes either, but nobody wants to share their special relationship with anyone else. "I'm so in love with this girl, she's so awesome, but the only problem is...she's taken! I can't have her, she already has the kind of relationship I want, with somebody ELSE. Great." Now that makes this relationship difficult, especially if she doesn't know about the interest, and if she does, it makes it feel AWKWARD ! Awkward Octopus. In other words, super awkward."Now I have to get her to see how awesome I am, without encroaching upon her boundaries, because she might kick my ass, or worse her big thug of a boyfriend will kick my ass. Ugh!"

The "I'm Madly in Love with You" relationship:"

This is a kind of relationship, that requires a big chunk of sexual appeal as well as trust and friendship. There is no other way. Feeling like we have a protector that cares about us, that creates a bond that I like to call, "crazy" or "in love" whatever you prefer. It fills a void in our lives: sex that means something. it basically says, "I would do anything in my power, to make you happy." 

Almost done, promise. WE have three more. The "Friends with Benefits", the "You get on my nerves, but you're my friend," and "We're not friends, we're family." 

The "I like you as a friend, but we don't talk much, but hanging out with you is cool. Bottom line, "We're friends, friends with benefits." Relationship:

 This is another tricky relationship. Being friends shouldn't really have to be  a chore, but sometimes it kinda feels that way. Sometimes you like this persons attitude, and physical makeup. Sometimes it's just fuels our horniness. Wish I were kidding. We like them as friends and we like the way they look, but sometimes the conversation is lacking. So let's just make out or do it, but not only this, "don't tell anyone, and oh yea, I'm not coming to your cousins wedding next week. I like this other girl." This is where there becomes a big issue and it becomes tricky. Some people misinterpret this relationship, like "we're romantic, and we want to be the most important thing in this person's life," but when feelings get in the way...feelings of dare I say it? LOVE? or maybe it IS just LUST. There is something about doing something so taboo, it's an adrenaline rush, and that's ALL it is, and all it ever will be. But hey, sometimes there is something there more than just love in the friendship. They don't usually work out real well because they become like puppets with strings attached and someone ends up getting hurt, because they are "Friends, Friends with Benefits" and not in a "I'm madly in love with you relationship." One of these people gets hurt because feelings are like strings. The strings get tangled because often times, one person thinks they are in a romantic relationship and to the other, friends are not lovers. Lovers are lovers, and friends are just friends, not lovers. 

The "You're my friend, but you get on my nerves" / "Friends by association" Relationship:

 These are the friends that we only hang out with, because someone else, really kinda likes them, and appreciates their qualities. Their qualities you like, but their personality is not likable to you. You enjoy having a conversation with this person on ocassion, but sometimes you would just wish they would "Shut up," and "they don't have many friends,it can't hurt, right? " Usually they aren't around all that much and avoiding them. Sometimes they fall under the Enemies category.

And last but not least. The " I've hung out with you so much, and you've put up with me even when I was too drunk to function, and still want to me to be in your life. Oh yea, did I mention you helped me deal with my strings, AKA, my feelings? We're not friends, you've become my adopted family" Relationship:

These are the people that got to hanging out after, "we have something in common" relationship. Being friends is one thing, but it's another when you trust these people to the point, that you know in your heart that these people truly have your best interests at heart. They aren't looking to piss you off, they want to be the person who gives you comfort when you need it, gives you a slap in the face when you need it, and you can cry in front of them, and the most important part, that they enjoy doing that for you. It isn't a chore. I know people who it is a chore to make them feel better, because self esteem is low. These are the people that care about you like you're their brother or sister, and would probably take a bullet for you if it was you vs them, because they know the feeling is mutual, you would do the same for them.

This is it for relationships today. I could go longer, but I'm surprised you kept reading for this long. I really appreciate you reading  this week. I hope you will keep following and I hope you enjoyed it as much as I enjoyed writing it.
By the way, I really enjoy reading comments.
Next week, I have a special blog in mind. Hope to see you then.

Cassidy