One of my friends mentioned after I wrote the friend rulebook, that I should do The "Relationship Rulebook."
Since, I'm having a tad bit of writer's block, I think I'm going to dive into this one. Now, some of the rules will overlap, so please forgive me if I do repeat.
Being in a relationship isn't easy stuff. I've said this before in all of my blogs. It may be one of the most difficult things in life to understand. It's not so cut and dry, because those annoying things called feelings get in the way. Most of the rules are unwritten, but I guess now it's time to write them down. Cassidy's rules.
1. Be Honest With Each Other: Don't start a relationship with lies. Starting a relationship with lies is like wearing a costume all day and everyday, where you can't be yourself. We start lying to cover up our lies to appear better than we are. Don't lie, ever. Fabricating and exaggerating only makes you sink quicker in a puddle of quicksand. I could lie and worry about getting caught. Or I could never get caught because I don't do it. No secrets.
2. Don't Hook Up if you can't stand each other! : If you initially don't like each other, Don't HOOK UP! I know, again, seems pretty obvious. Now, maybe try to build a friendship relationship if you're stuck dealing with a butthead that hangs out with your group of friends. At the end, you'll either be disgusted, that you hooked up, or thankful you didn't, or waited until you knew each other better. Ok, i get that intense emotion thing, extreme loathing, but is it really that hot?
3. Don't Be Stupid, if You can't talk about sexual histories and protection, then you aren't mature enough to have sex. If you care AT ALL about the person you're having sex with, neither of you want to wind up pregnant or with Ghonnerea. If all you ever do is touch each other, then you are missing out, because it sure as hell beats walking around with herpes for the rest of your life.
4. Support Each Other: When I'm upset or angry, I want my boyfriend to just hug me when I cry. I want to be able to cry for hours, and be comforted. I too should do that for him, even if he won't cry like me.Open up and vent it out! Now I'm not saying be pessimistic all the time, but tell someone, if not, you'll bitch that anger on the rest of the world, and don't take it out on us. Sometimes a clear head has better thoughts than an angry one. It almost always does.
5. Never go to bed Angry: When you and partner get into a fight, don't play the "You know why I'm upset game." Odds are, they don't know what's wrong, people aren't mindreaders. They may have X-ray vision, but they can't read your mind. Resentment will cuddle next to you instead of your partner. Plus: After you make up? A good reason to get busy. Bonus.
6. Meet the Parents: Yes, they need to meet your parents. Without meeting them, there's this persona that doesn't make any sense. You can't just honk the horn and have the person run out of the house. Be classier than that. I'm not saying wear a tie and khaki pants hiked up to your armpits like Steve Urkel, but at least make a good impression!
Sporting your tattoos to the parents first day? Not the best bet. (again nothing against tattoos, but they should like your personality first.)
I'm no relationship expert, I think these are good starts though for a healthy honest sexful relationship.
There will be more to come on love, sex, romance, and more advice. Night
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